Skip the Gossip- Find the Gold.

Gossip. I know gossip is something that is often talked about and yet, as women especially, we tend to find ourselves gossiping more often than not. We have many reasons for doing so but perhaps the most unthought of reason is because by doing so, we allow ourselves to feel better about who we are. As we talk badly about someone else we think we’re managing to make someone else look worse than us and in return, we get to feel a little better about ourselves for a few moments in time. But it’s sad. Instead of knocking people down, instead of making comments like, “Ashley looks like she put on 10 pounds over the holidays”, why don’t we try to be positive? How about, “Did you see that Natalie got new glasses? She looks so fabulous!”

Be the person who digs through the

dirt and finds the gold buried there.


It’s not always as hard to find as we think. Surround yourself with people who talk about the good. People who focus on building each other up rather than discussing other people’s lives and looks. Build people up. Not just your best friends, but everyone. Every person you pass in the hall has been intentionally placed in this world. They are loved, their bodies were created and they too need to find their way. They’re on their own path of personal growth and they too have purpose. Exactly like you.

Are you helping or hindering them? Are you someone who is being used for good in their life or are you hurting them? Words have power- they are just as powerful in your friends ears as they are in others. Build someone up today. Stop a rumour tonight. Know you’re loved and that even in a room full of wonderful, accomplished and attractive people, you are still a star, just as you are. You don’t need to tear others down to shine brighter. And, if you are a child of God, you are the apple of His eye. Build others up, word by word, action by action.

“The tongue is a small thing but what enormous damage it can do.” – James 3:5 (NLT)

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